Bachelorette

We had a great Bachelorette party for Jessica last weekend. A trial run for the hair, a few hot girls going out for some wine and appetizers, an hour at the hot springs talking girl talk, and back to my house for some presents and great conversation. In the dynamic that is Demitrius and Jessica's relationship, Demi usually dominates a conversation with his big personality and his intensity. This is not to say that Jessica is docile or doesn't have a personality or opinion of her own but she is more of a servant and an observer. Well lately it has been a joy to see her blossom, as if months of thinking and living out life alongside one another have caused thoughts to come pouring out her lips. Getting her off alone with just the girls allowed us to hear so much about her thoughts, feelings and observations about getting married and the whole path of their relationship. One of the beautiful things God has done is give us one another as friends because we are both moms in unusual ways. Since Demi has girls from his previous marriage she is not only becoming a wife but a mom. She has been slowly and patiently stepping into this role for a long time now and her love for the girls is so deep and genuine. I watch her observe them with hope and joy and give them grace for all the difficulties that arise from being the kiddos of divorced parents. I watch her rejoice over the small victories, and get up one more time to get them something they need, and nurture them at every opportunity. I am so impressed with her strength and I can relate to her because I know the Lord has given her every ounce of that strength. The other fun thing in doing all this wedding planning with her has been to see her sense of romance. She is classy and creative and she has an eye for the details but she has a good sense of what is really and truly important and what is not. It has been a delight to bless her with these celebrations (we threw a killer bridal shower too) because she enjoys these occasions down to the core of her being. Such a joy to celebrate my friend Jessica!